Howie Kahn writes a fun and funny piece on his friendship with a married couple.  He knew her before she got married, and he grew to be a close friend with him.  Kahn was the ring-bearer, of sorts,… Continue reading

    Brian Goedde writes about his breakup with his girlfriend.  His psychotherapist (people still do psychotherapy? – I thought it was mostly drugs now…) tells him to interview people who knew the two of them to answer the question… Continue reading

    It is so nice to read something about a deep and performative love; not simply the posing of New York singles looking for intimacy but resistant of commitment; but a story of a life transformed through the daily… Continue reading

     This week, Sara Pepitone (any relation to Joe Pepitone, the one-time New York Yankee?) writes about a restaurant she and a friend-turned-boyfriend found and enjoyed together.  They break up and the place remains a melancholy reminder of their… Continue reading

    In this week’s "Modern Love" column in the Sunday NYT, Dan Savage tells a poignant story of how he and his partner adopt a baby from a homeless young woman.  It is an open adoption, so Savage has… Continue reading

     I knew this was going to happen sooner or later: the column would run a piece that completely rubs me the wrong way.  This is the week.      Stephen Elliott describes his "relationship" with a married woman… Continue reading

    To anyone new to this blog: I am making a habit of blogging the NYT "Modern Love" column that runs in the Sunday edition.      In this week’s piece, Jessica Krasilovsky tells us about her continuing  habit… Continue reading

     Today’s column, by Hyla Sabesin Finn, recounts her struggles to break her boy friend’s and, later, husband’s smoking habit.         What struck me about the piece is how seemingly mundane habits may reflect more fundamental problems… Continue reading

     I am at the beach and will not attempt to read and react to this week’s "Modern Love" column.  Be back next week.  But here is a passage from Confucius to think about:     When Yen Hui… Continue reading